Is HAPPINESS your default mode?
17 March 2021 | beando_admin
We think so at beanddo.
Here one of our current trainee MMb coaches Amelia Lee examines our formula for happiness, Ha = Be + Do – I, to see how it works.
Happiness is our default mode, but it was a long and winding journey for me personally to arrive at that realisation. Ha = Be + Do – I is a formula or blueprint to help people find happiness and begin to understand the mechanics of how to get there. In my own meditation practice when I drop down into my inner place of connection, I often experience a likeness or semblance of the feeling you get when entering a church or temple. There’s a coolness and stillness there that carries with it a sacredness too. That place can feel incredibly happy; I always feel safe and content there. But, a longer lasting happiness can only emerge by taking this experience out into the real, living world and connecting it to everyday life without the need to retreat inside. This is what the beanddo happiness formula is all about.
Let’s break it down so we can begin to better understand how and why it works:
Happiness = Being + Doing – Interference
Being – your constant, unchanging inner world of consciousness and wellbeing
Doing – your constantly changing outer world of action and reaction including your thoughts and emotions
Interference – your thinking, judgement and mental expectation. The voice in your head.*
When we are used to existing primarily in the Doing mode, surrounded by interference, we are often disconnected from our Being. First of all, we need to find a way to reconnect. Meditation is the path to your inner temple where you connect with the soul and consciousness that resides there. This comes naturally through regular meditation practice. Initially, the space might feel strange and unfamiliar if you haven’t visited for a while, but over time it feels like coming home and returning to yourself.
The ‘I’ in the formula is labelled as interference, but could just as easily be the ‘I’ of ego. There is an important element of getting out of your own way and learning to let go of limiting beliefs, thoughts and judgements. The beauty of meditation is that as you reconnect to your Being mode, the intensity of interference naturally fades and softens, making it much easier to let go and accept things the way they are. Interference is intrinsically linked to the past or future, whereas Being can only exist in the present. On autopilot in a disconnected Doing mode, we access the world only through the lens of interference – past or future – which magnifies worry, anxiety and stress. Looking through a lens obscures our reality and stops us from seeing things as they really are. As we reconnect to our Being, we move closer to a life in the present moment. As we know from our meditation practice, only now is real.
Through meditation practice each day you begin to create – and, more significantly, witness – the space that exists between Being and Doing. Watching your body breathing for you, seeing thoughts pass through your awareness field, hearing sounds and feeling sensations from a safe distance. Over time and as you gain confidence with your practice, you begin to merge Being and Doing together by taking your meditation practice out into the world. You do this in a measured way and from a place of absolute awareness. The good news is that you are now moving closer and closer to your default mode of happiness.
“As you learn to bring meditation into your life, you begin to gently approach Doing through Being. You observe the world from a quiet vantage point, sitting on the doorstep of your inner temple with doors wide open to the beauty and fullness of experience outside”.
For many years I bypassed my Being and went straight to Doing on autopilot. Doing, doing, doing; all the time. It was exhausting and I missed truly experiencing any of it; mostly tangled up and lost in a world of interference. As you learn to bring meditation into your life, you begin to gently approach Doing through Being. You observe the world from a quiet vantage point, sitting on the doorstep of your inner temple with doors wide open to the beauty and fullness of experience outside. Here and now, you are fully connected to the present. As Being connects to Doing, moment by moment, you experience the reality of life without interference; without judgements informed by the past or desires wishing you into the future.
From the present moment, happiness blossoms and you are there as a grateful witness, watching it grow. Lucky you.
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