How to beat the Sunday blues
16 April 2019 | beando_admin
The ‘Sunday blues’ is a real thing.
The very day you are supposed to be feeling centred, relaxed and calm. The very day that is designed to promote stillness and reflection can also be a day of mounting dread and fear, as thoughts turn to getting back to work in the morning.
For me, it used to be somewhere between 3-4pm on Sunday afternoon when those butterflies kicked in. It was tiring and exhausting and made 7pm feel more like 11pm, which only made things worse.
For many it can be an acute condition, as those feelings of helplessness and disempowerment, linked to anxiety and stress, intensify. And because Sunday night is when you iron your shirts, make sure your bag is ready and lunch is made, each item on your to do list intensifies those feelings.
The feelings associated with the Sunday blues were all wrapped up with expectation linked to that feeling that maybe you are not doing the right thing. Sunday blues were tinged with doubt and a little regret. Was I doing what I should be doing? Should be doing something else, be somebody else etc. Another week ahead doing the stuff you think you shouldn’t be doing. I noticed that if I was out at the cinema or dinner, I was active and distracted. I was fine. It’s just that if I was at home, my attention would always turn towards what I imagined was coming up. My natural negativity bias kicking in and overheating.
What helped me get through it?
A little Joseph Campbell allied with a good dose of yoga and meditation.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
Campbell told me to let go.
It’s okay, he said.
Keep focused on now
You don’t need to hold on, or try to resist change. You don’t need to search or look for alternatives. Right here, right now is exactly where you are supposed to be. And if you keep focused on that constantly emerging sense of now you will always be exactly where you are supposed to be, doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing.
So that was the intention. To let go. But I needed to know how…
The answer was exactly as Campbell implied; it was right there in front of me. Meditate. Train yourself to be here. Look up out of your mental agitation and take real notice. Everything would be fine, in fact everything is fine. It’s only your thinking that makes it not so. Thanks Hamlet.
It’s the process, not the destination
We are all in action. We all have to do something. So why not make what you are doing the whole point. It’s all a process, not a destination or a set of fixed points. It’s fluid and when you get that moment of being present it flows.
No more worry. No doubt. No more what ifs… just get on with it.
I realised that those Sunday Blues were nothing to do with Sunday at all.
It was me all along. I spent every Sunday attaching labels and concepts to the moment rather than just letting Sunday afternoon be lazy with no mind to worry.
Of course you can still have those thoughts and concepts. It’s okay, but with meditation we uncover a whole new way of just being, no matter what day of the week it is, because you know what? Sunday is a concept too; it’s a label.
Learn to know that, be free and get to work on Monday morning a whole new person. In fact, the person you are supposed to be, doing the work you are supposed to be doing.
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